The power of human touch is illustrated in an interesting French experiment. It’s like a scene straight out of a PUA boot camp:
The scene was a particularly sunny June day in a pedestrian zone in the city of Vannes… in the west of France. Over the course of that day, three young and handsome French men randomly approached 240 young women they spotted walking alone and propositioned each and every one of them. To each, they would utter exactly the same words: “Hello. My name’s Antoine. I just want to say that I think you’re really pretty. I have to go to work this afternoon but I wonder if you would give me your phone number. I’ll phone you later and we can have a drink together someplace.” If the woman refused, they’d say, “Too bad. It’s not my day. Have a nice afternoon.” And then they’d look for another young woman to approach. If the woman handed over her number, they’d tell her the proposition was all in the name of science, at which time, according to the scientists, most of the women laughed. The key to the experiment was this: with half the women they propositioned, the young men added a light one-second touch to the woman’s forearm. The other half received no touch.
In short, daytime cold approaching. What effect did touching have on the results?
Over the course of the day, the young men collected three dozen phone numbers. When they didn’t touch the women, they had a success rate of 10 percent; when they touched them, their success rate was 20 percent. That light one-second touch doubled their popularity.
The article goes on to describe the power of touching in developing trust, comfort and connection.
This is yet another example of how physical contact is one of the most powerful things you can incorporate into your game. Touching that is appropriate for the social context (higher for night game, lower for day game) can completely revolutionize your results, where other measures will make only a marginal difference.
This also helps explain why guys who never lay a finger on girls, including and especially on dates, have a very hard time getting anywhere. The girl will not escalate on herself for you. You have to initiate.
One of my favorite things about physical escalation is that, as an introvert, it allows you to come out of your shell and connect with women without yapping. Getting bogged down in all those words and chitchat usually isn’t very productive in moving things forward with women.
A well-placed touch is a more efficient use of your energy. And touching a woman feels more natural and comfortable for me, as an introverted man, than trying to string together the right combination of statements and questions.
Most human communication is nonverbal. Touching is usually more powerful than words. When I’m hanging out with a female friend, for instance, instead of trying to put into words my sympathies when she’s describing a problem she has, I will take her hand and give it a gentle caring squeeze.
Or when she gives some good news, instead of verbalizing, I will express my happiness by hugging her or giving her a high five or even putting my arm around her and giving her a kiss on the cheek.
Get comfortable with physical contact, and the results might just blow your mind.