“Only Screwed up Women Have Quick Sex”

From time to time I hear from self-styled “smart” guys who “know how it is,” that the only women who will have quick sex are undesirable, low-quality screw-ups. They also assume you can only sleep with interesting, smart and “high quality” women by wining and dining them, taking them on lots of dates, and building a relationship … Read more

How to Get Massive Dating & Social Progress – Talking with my Client Max (Audio)

Here is part 2 of my conversation with my one-on-one client Max, who finished up a long-term program with me recently (hear the first part here). We get into the details of: Where he was at the beginning of our program What motivated him to seek help His tangible achievements in meeting women, getting dates and … Read more

What She Means By “I Want to Make Friends First”

If you look at women’s online dating profiles, a lot of them say “I want to make friends first, and then see where things go from there.” She wants to become “friends” with a guy, before getting into a sexual or romantic relationship. Women might often say this in person as well. But we are all familiar … Read more

If She Liked Me, How Come She Didn’t Respond to My Text? 5 Explanations

One of the classic sources of confusion about women is why the attraction in person doesn’t seem to translate over text. A girl might seem really into you, but then doesn’t respond when you text her. Or she texts back a few times but eventually fades. I’m going to try to identify the most common … Read more

Optimize Your Social and Dating Life this April 2015

What’s up guys, I’m running an exciting new program this April in NYC: Social Dating Optimization. I’m doing this program with my friend Mike, of StyleCoachNYC.com, who is also an experienced dating and lifestyle coach. We intend this program to be unlike anything else out there: a combination of attraction/ dating coaching and guided social … Read more

Are Women Harder to Pick Up Today than in the Past?

Are women harder to pick up today? This is an interesting question a reader asked me recently. I would say the answer is “yes and no.” In some ways, it is far, far easier today to have casual sex, short term relationships and quick sex in general than in the past (say, 30 years ago or … Read more

Positive Energy and Getting Physical on the First Date

The last 3 clips of my talk with Sarah of IntrovertedAlpha.com about her first date with her future boyfriend. Check out part 1-3 here and part 4-6 here. Part 7: Connecting with her and positive energy Part 8: Their first kiss and more on physical escalation Part 9: Connection, sexual openness and the path of improvement

Sarah’s First Date With Her Boyfriend

Continuing with my talk with dating coach Sarah of IntrovertedAlpha.com about her first date with her boyfriend. See clips 1-3 here. Here we talk about her future boyfriend’s energy and vibe on their first date, his confidence level, getting physical and nonverbal communication. Part 4: Dominance, confidence and good energy Part 5: Getting physical on the first date … Read more

What We Can Learn from Sarah’s First Impression of Her Boyfriend

I had a Skype chat with my friend Sarah of IntrovertedAlpha.com about her first date with her boyfriend. We had about an hour long conversation and I broke it down into shorter clips. You can hear the whole thing or skip to individual clips. Sarah (who is herself a men’s dating coach) has been dating her boyfriend for … Read more