Taking Risks in Your Dating Life vs Sustainable Growth (Audio)

To maximize your growth, you need to strike the balance between intense crazy experiences, and small consistent actions. Instead of thinking of these as polar opposites, think of them as two sides of the same coin: both are necessary for growth in your social skills and attraction skills. Too much of one or the other will lead … Read more

How to Talk to Busy Women in New York City

In a city where everyone is busy with work, friends and countless social events, it can be hard to stand out. I’ve noticed that the very attractive women also tend to be busy women in NYC. Prepare yourself to meet an attractive woman who might be rushing between meetings, running late for class, or going to … Read more

How to Get Massive Dating & Social Progress – Talking with my Client Max (Audio)

Here is part 2 of my conversation with my one-on-one client Max, who finished up a long-term program with me recently (hear the first part here). We get into the details of: Where he was at the beginning of our program What motivated him to seek help His tangible achievements in meeting women, getting dates and … Read more

What Max Learned from Our Long Term Program (Audio)

A client of mine recently finished up a long term program, here we talk about the biggest things he learned from the process. We discuss topics like: Learning to set boundaries with women Focusing less on “what to say” and more on “how to say it” Informational vs emotional communication Learning and accepting your true … Read more

How Do I Stay Motivated to Meet New Women?

A client asked me this question about staying motivated recently. He’s been doing really well during our program, and wonders how he can keep the passion alive. It’s actually something that I’ve been considering for myself lately too. There are basically two ways to stay motivated and continue taking action: (1) You have a very clear … Read more

How to Set Simple but Effective Goals (Audio)

It’s tempting to set over-ambitious goals for yourself when trying to improve your conversation, flirting or seduction skills. This is a common mistake I see with lots of guys. They are frustrated and want to get better quick. Unfortunately, they often set goals that are too ambitious, fail, crash and burn, fall into a pit … Read more

Why Men Lack Confidence with Women

Why do so many men today lack confidence? Everyone knows that confidence is important for success with women and dating. So why do so many guys have trouble in this area? There are two main types of confidence: we can call them “constructed” confidence and “pure” confidence. The first is constructed over time through life experience. The second … Read more

Why Relaxing is Critical to Your Flirting and Dating Success – Guys & Girls (Audio)

Here is a talk I gave to a group of guys and girls on relaxation and flirtation. Something interesting I always notice is that the principles of attraction for men and women are more or less the same. The only thing that differs is the execution and strategy. But concepts like confidence, being relaxed, playfulness, looking good, etc, … Read more

Meeting Women from Foreign Cultures – Thoughts from Medellin, Colombia

I am writing this from a cafe in Medellin, Colombia. This is my first trip out of the US in a very long time. I’ve met a bunch of women just in the short time I’ve been here. It’s been an interesting experience but has also reaffirmed a lot of what I already believed about the universals … Read more