10 Tips to Meet Women in Your Daily Life (Audio)

Here is the audio from a 30 minute talk I gave in NYC on “meeting women in your daily life.” I go over 10 simple tactics to make meeting women on a regular basis easier and smoother. The key lesson here is that approaching and having conversations with women is something you need to integrate … Read more

Approach Anxiety’s Odd Cousin: The Walkaway Blues

Everyone is familiar with approach anxiety: that nervousness and hesitation you feel right before walking up to someone you’re interested in and saying hi. But there is a flip side to approach anxiety. I call it the “Walkaway Blues.” Whereas approach anxiety affects you before you approach a woman, the walkaway blues affect you after, … Read more

Becoming Less Intimidated by Women

Why are women so scary? When you see a hot girl, you suddenly get nervous, tense or hesitant. When this happens over and over, it becomes a pattern. Over time, just walking up and talking to an attractive girl becomes a monumental undertaking. Some guys never get a handle on this issue, and live their lives constantly … Read more

Let Go of the Need for Perfection

There is an old saying: Don’t make the perfect the enemy of the good. The desire to make everything perfect when you approach a girl, take her out on a date, or do pretty much anything else, is the kiss of death. Rather than motivating you to do your best, the need to make it “perfect” … Read more

Introverts: Too Tired to Socialize? What’s Really Happening

There are two big reasons why introverts might be too tired to socialize. One is an indication you need to rest and be alone for a while. The other indicates you actually need to push harder, be more social and approach more women. I always say that social skills are like a muscle. Just like you need to exercise your … Read more

Approach Addiction and Flash Game

Flash game is a high-energy style of game that is heavy on banter, flirting, teasing and excitement, but light on comfort and connection. Basically, it looks great from the outside. Other guys will look at how you are able to approach girls and actually talk to them and they will be impressed. They will give … Read more

Topless girl fails to get approached in NYC – would you approach her? (photos)

On a recent Sunday afternoon I was sitting in a busy park here in New York. Kids were running around, some people were playing volleyball, and so on. It was a nice sunny day. Plenty of girls were out wearing small clothes (one thing I like about summer in the city). Then two hot girls walk on the scene. They are topless. They … Read more

3 ways to overcome shyness with women

Most guys have experienced shyness with women. Specific actions like the following helped me to get past shyness around women and become more socially confident. Shyness results in things like a quiet voice, avoiding attention, and poor body language. If you recognize these effects of shyness, you can begin taking confident action, even if you are still nervous or anxious in … Read more

Approaching women when there are other people around

Approaching women when you are in the midst of other people is often a scary and intimidating situation. For whatever reason, we are programmed to be concerned about other people’s opinions and judgments of us. It could be a beautiful woman sitting on the train, or walking down the street, or standing in line in a … Read more

Dealing with rejection – one guy’s 100 days of rejection experiment

Rejection is a part of life. But most of us are so fearful of rejection anywhere in our lives, from women/ dating to our careers or businesses, that we can’t bring ourselves to take any meaningful action. So Jia Jiang decided to do an experiment and put himself through 100 days of rejection. After failing to … Read more