What Max Learned from Our Long Term Program (Audio)

A client of mine recently finished up a long term program, here we talk about the biggest things he learned from the process. We discuss topics like: Learning to set boundaries with women Focusing less on “what to say” and more on “how to say it” Informational vs emotional communication Learning and accepting your true … Read more

Meeting Women from Foreign Cultures – Thoughts from Medellin, Colombia

I am writing this from a cafe in Medellin, Colombia. This is my first trip out of the US in a very long time. I’ve met a bunch of women just in the short time I’ve been here. It’s been an interesting experience but has also reaffirmed a lot of what I already believed about the universals … Read more

Approach Anxiety’s Odd Cousin: The Walkaway Blues

Everyone is familiar with approach anxiety: that nervousness and hesitation you feel right before walking up to someone you’re interested in and saying hi. But there is a flip side to approach anxiety. I call it the “Walkaway Blues.” Whereas approach anxiety affects you before you approach a woman, the walkaway blues affect you after, … Read more

What a Rude Rejection Teaches Us About Ourselves

The other night I was out with some friends at a bar in the city. Towards the end of the night, I spotted one of the most beautiful girls, if not the most beautiful, of the entire night. I decided to walk over and try to talk to her. She’s so hot she probably has a … Read more

Becoming Less Intimidated by Women

Why are women so scary? When you see a hot girl, you suddenly get nervous, tense or hesitant. When this happens over and over, it becomes a pattern. Over time, just walking up and talking to an attractive girl becomes a monumental undertaking. Some guys never get a handle on this issue, and live their lives constantly … Read more

Why women act snotty and bitchy and what to do about it

Imagine that it’s night time. You are half-naked in a crowd of people, and being constantly looked at (either overtly or subtly) by people significantly larger, stronger and louder than you. You don’t immediately know who is normal and who is at least a little crazy, or who is safe and who might be violent. And … Read more

You must have fun whether you like it or not

I have great respect for any guy who takes his dating and love life seriously and wants to succeed. This is something that very few people actually do. It requires dedication, persistence, and a core belief that you can improve and become a better man. It also requires “work,” that is, putting in effort and pushing yourself … Read more

Feeling entitled with women: having the right kind of entitlement attitude

“Entitlement” is an idea that has been around for a while in the PUA community. The idea is that if you feel entitled to a woman, you will perform better. You will approach women more, approach hotter women, take risks like sexual innuendo or physical escalation, and ask them out more often. If you feel … Read more

Becoming strong enough to overcome challenges – acceptance that life is hard

In this video Tyler Durden of RSD (real name Owen) discusses the challenges and hardships that come with just being alive, and especially with any effort at self-improvement and progress (including improving with women). While we may not want to accept them, the challenges and difficulties in life are what give us character, personality and … Read more

Don’t take dating advice from movies or the media

One of the big things that screws with young guys is the media. There are a lot of guys who get ideas about women and dating from TV shows, movies or other media products. Often this is because they have no other reference points. To a boy growing up with no experience with girls, watching … Read more