“Only Screwed up Women Have Quick Sex”

From time to time I hear from self-styled “smart” guys who “know how it is,” that the only women who will have quick sex are undesirable, low-quality screw-ups. They also assume you can only sleep with interesting, smart and “high quality” women by wining and dining them, taking them on lots of dates, and building a relationship … Read more

4 Ways to Make it Clear You Want Something Casual

The last thing you want is to waste your time dating a girl for weeks or months who wants something different than you. If you want a casual relationship, and she wants something serious, you are wasting a lot of time and energy on a relationship that is doomed. Use these tips to avoid those problems. It’s not … Read more

Are Women Harder to Pick Up Today than in the Past?

Are women harder to pick up today? This is an interesting question a reader asked me recently. I would say the answer is “yes and no.” In some ways, it is far, far easier today to have casual sex, short term relationships and quick sex in general than in the past (say, 30 years ago or … Read more

Does Casual Sex Cause Depression?

A study last year found a connection between casual sex among teenagers and young adults, and depression symptoms. Other studies have found a similar link between casual sex and psychological issues. But the question has always been: does casual sex cause mental problems, or do mental problems cause casual sex? It’s clear that people–especially young … Read more

Evolution of Promiscuity – Myths About Human Sexuality, Love and Desire (video)

This is an interesting interview with author Christopher Ryan about human sexuality and our sexual nature. He speaks against a lot of myths and traditionalist assumptions about what sex is for and the role it serves. Among other interesting points, they discuss: 1:10: Being sexually attracted to multiple people is normal 2:00: Sexual monogamy is not … Read more

Sex is easier to get than a relationship?

Can casual sex be easier to get than a serious relationship? It seems counter-intuitive given everything we are told about attraction and dating. There seem to be boyfriend/ girlfriend relationships everywhere, and relatively little casual sex by comparison. However, there are a few key reasons why sex can actually be easier to come by than serious relationships, … Read more

3 reasons why it’s easier to have sex on vacation

I have noticed something interesting in some quarters of the internet dating advice world: the belief that in certain places it is “easier to get laid” than others. While certainly true on the surface, what is really going on here? Most of the time it’s not because the “women are better.” Here are the biggest reasons … Read more

Economics of Sex Video – 5 Wrong Ideas About Men, Women and Sex

This video has become pretty popular and has caused a stir in some regions of the internet. It is created by a social conservative group in Texas that longs for the good-old-days of chastity, monogamous marriage and all that jazz. See the video here, and my comments afterwards. I can’t go through every fallacious idea … Read more

The importance of female pleasure – good sex for women

As a guy who wants more choice in his love life, improving your skills in the bedroom is extremely important. Whether you are looking for short term flings or committed monogamy, you will greatly benefit from giving your woman or women a great time in bed. Quite simply, women like having sex with men who … Read more

Can casual sex lead to serious dating? Hooking up and relationships

The dynamic between casual sex, hooking up and serious long term relationships turns out to be pretty interesting. It is usually assumed that if you want a serious relationship with someone, you should delay having sex with them. This idea is especially prominent among women, many of whom have been “used” by cads and players. … Read more