Meeting Women from Foreign Cultures – Thoughts from Medellin, Colombia

I am writing this from a cafe in Medellin, Colombia. This is my first trip out of the US in a very long time. I’ve met a bunch of women just in the short time I’ve been here. It’s been an interesting experience but has also reaffirmed a lot of what I already believed about the universals … Read more

Why women flake: it’s not you, it’s her

We all encounter flakes or fades from women who initially seemed interested. We are often hard on ourselves and assume “there must be something wrong with my game.” It could be that you need to improve your skills. But it could also be that, regardless of game or no game, she is simply not interested … Read more

How to reduce your flake rate to almost nothing: turn phone numbers into dates

Flaking happens when you get a girl’s number, but she either never responds to your texts/ calls, or she never meets up with you. It can be frustrating to get phone numbers that don’t lead to anything. As I see it, there are basically two major ways to reduce your flake rate. The first is … Read more

Why am I getting more brush-offs as an advanced gamer?

I’ve been improving my ability to generate significant levels of comfort and connection with women in a cold approach. That means getting really present and in the moment, strong eye contact, and being open with my energy and my desire to talk with the girl. One interesting side-effect of this is that I have encountered … Read more

Why did she flake?

Women are emotional creatures when it comes to sex and romance. And emotions can be very fickle things. Whereas men are very simple (if she’s hot, we want to stay in touch with her and see her again), women are complicated. They can feel great about a guy one day, and then totally ambivalent about … Read more

Building a Connection with Women

Basic attraction, excitement and interest is relatively easy to accomplish. Comfort and connection is much harder. Yet comfort and connection is where seduction really is. Men who are great with women do not get there because of their crazy, funny, exciting and witty personas. That may play a part, but their real skill is their ability … Read more