5 Keys to Meet and Date Confident Women

Somebody asked me to write about confident and interesting women. So here goes. Life is a mirror. It reflects back to you what you put out. If you put out negative energy all day (“my boss is a fucking idiot… girls are so dumb… the fucking train is late again… why is that asshole looking … Read more

If You Want to Win, Be Prepared to Lose

I have approached hundreds of women over the last few years. Almost all of them, easily over 90%, I have not had any kind of sexual relationship with. And the vast majority, over 70%, I never went out with at all. Getting rejected, ignored, turned down, brushed off and flaked on has not made me … Read more

9 Big Reasons Why You Are Lucky To Be a Man (And 9 for Women)

Being a man is tough. Or is it? American culture today is preoccupied with victimhood. Everybody wants to be a “victim.” Being perceived as a victim gives you some great benefits. Not only do you get more sympathy (valuable in a time when many are isolated from each other and from human connection). But people also cut you a … Read more

Introverts, Attraction and True “Alphas” – Skype Video Conversation

I recent had an in-depth conversation with Sarah from IntrovertedAlpha.com. Sarah is a dating coach for guys, and especially likes working with introverts. We talked about a ton of interesting stuff. Our conversation goes to show how so many aspects of being social, dating skills and mindset intersect with each other.   Some highlights: 5:30: Finding opportunities to become … Read more

Dating Younger Women and New York City Pickup

I sat down recently for an in-depth conversation with a friend who has been attracting and dating women in New York for years. Listen below. DJ Aim dates a lot of younger women, and prefers East Asian girls especially. We talked about meeting women in NYC, improving your lifestyle, how older guys can successfully date … Read more

The Gap Between Your Physical Desire and Social Skills and What to do About it

Desire vs. Skill We have a strong desire for sex. It’s programmed into us by nature. It’s mostly for ensuring the continued existence of our species. But many of us also have social skills that are not remotely consistent with that lust. The desire for sex is powerful, but the skills to actually get sex (much … Read more

Why it’s hard to put attraction into words

We have all seen naturals who are great with women. Ask them how they do it and they tend to say the same things: “I’m just being myself,” or “Just walk up and talk to her, dude.” We know that asking women for romantic advice can be unreliable, even frustrating. We get mixed messages, or even no real … Read more

Do you have to be fake or play games to get women?

Playing games vs. Being natural. Getting better with women and dating often feels “fake.” It feels like you are not acting “natural” or normal. So guys often decide: “Man, this stuff is so complicated! The only way to get women is to play games and act like something you are not!” It feels like this for the same reason anything feels … Read more

Topless girl fails to get approached in NYC – would you approach her? (photos)

On a recent Sunday afternoon I was sitting in a busy park here in New York. Kids were running around, some people were playing volleyball, and so on. It was a nice sunny day. Plenty of girls were out wearing small clothes (one thing I like about summer in the city). Then two hot girls walk on the scene. They are topless. They … Read more

Idiotic self-improvement techniques

I’m subscribed to a number of pickup, dating and self-improvement newsletters. It’s for my own learning/ growth, and also to keep up with developments in this field. Most of these are cool and have interesting perspectives. Most of the time they are thought-provoking. Sometimes I disagree with them. And every once in a while there is … Read more