Why Men Lack Confidence with Women

Why do so many men today lack confidence? Everyone knows that confidence is important for success with women and dating. So why do so many guys have trouble in this area? There are two main types of confidence: we can call them “constructed” confidence and “pure” confidence. The first is constructed over time through life experience. The second … Read more

Why Relaxing is Critical to Your Flirting and Dating Success – Guys & Girls (Audio)

Here is a talk I gave to a group of guys and girls on relaxation and flirtation. Something interesting I always notice is that the principles of attraction for men and women are more or less the same. The only thing that differs is the execution and strategy. But concepts like confidence, being relaxed, playfulness, looking good, etc, … Read more

3 Ways to Get Out of Your Head When Meeting Women (Audio)

Here’s the audio of a talk I gave at a rooftop bar in New York on how to get out of your head, learn to relax in social situations, and improve your conversations with attractive women. These are some simple techniques you can do to open up, get in the moment, and have more fun … Read more

Meeting Women from Foreign Cultures – Thoughts from Medellin, Colombia

I am writing this from a cafe in Medellin, Colombia. This is my first trip out of the US in a very long time. I’ve met a bunch of women just in the short time I’ve been here. It’s been an interesting experience but has also reaffirmed a lot of what I already believed about the universals … Read more

Approach Anxiety’s Odd Cousin: The Walkaway Blues

Everyone is familiar with approach anxiety: that nervousness and hesitation you feel right before walking up to someone you’re interested in and saying hi. But there is a flip side to approach anxiety. I call it the “Walkaway Blues.” Whereas approach anxiety affects you before you approach a woman, the walkaway blues affect you after, … Read more

The Truth About Persistence

I’ve tried the persistence game. That’s where you have a girl who is either really on the fence, or just plain not interested, and you keep trying to talk to her/ text her/ get physical anyway. It doesn’t work. I have enough experience now to say that, contrary to what many might say, persistence with an individual … Read more

Become the Person You Want to Attract

It’s one thing to be attractive to women in general. General attractiveness is enough to get you dates or sex. But most guys that are really trying to improve their dating life are after specific kinds of women. If you can get some women interested, but it never seems to be the women that you’re really hoping … Read more

What a Rude Rejection Teaches Us About Ourselves

The other night I was out with some friends at a bar in the city. Towards the end of the night, I spotted one of the most beautiful girls, if not the most beautiful, of the entire night. I decided to walk over and try to talk to her. She’s so hot she probably has a … Read more